Relationships and Couples Counseling

I work with both individuals and couples to improve relationships. In my couples counseling work, my client is your relationship. In order to improve the quality of your relationships, you may need to challenge belief systems, learn to manage emotions, and be willing to engage different behaviors. Individuals who are in a committed relationship must be willing to acknowledge their own challenges are not merely point to their partner’s failings. Much of work is informed by attachment theory. My couple’s work is informed by Stan Tatkin’s PACT therapy for couples and I am level I certified. PACT work increases security between couples. I can help you identify problematic communication patterns, problems adhering to agreements, or difficulty not prioritizing the relationship. You will learn how to provide a comprehensive “owners manual” to your partner so that they better understand how to in a relationship with you. Here are some good resources to help you with your relationship with yourself and others:

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The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man’s Quest to Be a Better Husband by David Finch

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin

Wired for Dating by Stan Tatkin

We Do by Stan Tatkin

The Apology by Eve Ensler

What Makes Love Last by John Gottman and Nan Silver

Equal Partners by Kate Mangino

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino

The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity and Love by Bell Hooks

The Case for Rage: Why Anger Is Essential to Anti-Racist Struggle by Myisha Cherry

Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women's Anger by Soraya Chemaly

Your Turn for Care: Surviving the Aging and Death of the Adults Who Harmed You by Laura S. Brown

How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

Truth and Repair: How Trauma Survivors Envision Justice by Judith L. Herman

Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit

How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy by Jenny Odell

Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women by Kate Manne

Kristen Neff: https://self-compassion.org/

Lou Ann Smith’s Early Relationship Workshops: https://www.earlymarriageworkshops.org/